My uncle is confused. What can we do to help?
To help confused people, make sure that they are safe and gently remind them of what is happening around them. Delirious patients may need a family member or staffperson to sit with them. This will ensure that they do not wander off or accidentally harm themselves. To help reorient confused people, you can place a large clock or calendar within their sight. Having familiar objects in the room (e.g., a family photograph) may also be helpful.
When talking to confused people, gently remind them of where they are and what is happening. Say their name often. For example, you might say, "Matthew, this is your wife Jenny. I am sitting with you here in the hospital." Or you could say, "Jim, you are a bit confused right now. The doctors say that it is due to some drugs. You are safe and will be better soon."
If delirious patients say something that is inaccurate, you can either let it pass or gently correct them. For example, a confused person might believe that she is at a hotel. You could respond, "No, Emily, you are in the hospital. We expect you to get better and come home soon." But only continue if the patient is calmed by your response. Don't argue or struggle to convince her of the truth. If she becomes irritated with you, stop immediately. It may be best to just sit quietly nearby. The transplant team may decide to calm an easily agitated recipient with medication.