I have been waiting several months for a liver transplant. One recipient does not look after his health well. At clinic, everybody talks about his reckless behavior. I wish they could take his liver back and give it to somebody who deserves it. Is it wrong to think this way?
If there is one thing that we have learned, it is that there is not one right or wrong way for a transplant candidate to think. Certain thoughts may make one uneasy when they arise. But this does not make them abnormal or wrong. It is easy to understand how you might feel this way. It must be unbearably frustrating to see someone neglect what you and others need desperately to live. Transplantation allows recipients to move on with their lives. It is not possible to change everybody's behavior to our liking.